From a male reader
I've been dating this lady for the last nine months and I need advise as things are beginning to get out of hand. I am ready to settle down but I don't know if I should make this woman my wife or let her go. I am madly in love with her but she's not what I want in a woman. I don't know how I managed to fall in love with her in the first place. She drinks too much, she smokes too much, she even smokes weed, though she tries to hide it but I've caught her a few times. She gets drunk at least once every other week. She's domesticated and is a good cook and sex with her is of course very great, but whenever she drinks I see a different woman. She's also very foul mouthed and can be very aggressive, especially when she's high from smoking. Whenever she's sober, we have a great time and I start to look at her as the mother of my kids but then she gets drunk again and I see a totally different person. I don't smoke or drink and I have even threatened to end the relationship if she doesn't stop drinking but that hasn't made a difference. Should I propose to her or let her go? Will she ever change? Is there anything I can do to make her a different woman?
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ReplyDeleteSuggest therapy to her, if she disagrees, let her go, you can find your good girl nd she can find her fellow junkie to tolerate her.
ReplyDeleteGuy says "I don't know how I managed to fall in love with her in the first place." Duh, the sex got you attached! If you had not been having sex, you would have walked away very easily. Shine your eyes, she's not ready to be a wifey. Maybe later in life. So take a walk!
ReplyDeleteDrinking is bad enough, and added with smoking? Jeez! Your brain cells are indeed worn out for you to be still asking what to do. Maybe you are waiting for when she starts taking cocaine before you would know what's up.
ReplyDeleteOnly heavens know what attracted you to this woman considering the fact that y'all are polar opposites and I dont know why people feel they can change other people, are u a blacksmith or the HolySpirit? (its just like how I know some days are sunny and some are rainy- can't do noffin about that). Anyways, she's almost always drunk and during that period she doesn't look to you like the mother of your kids- so lets say in a week she would have one day that means 52days in a year when she doesnt look like the mother of your kids...Let me lay it out straight 4 u:
ReplyDelete1. If shes very aggressive during that highness period, statistics show that you may be a broke man soon and wind up dead in no time.
2. The smoking may soon lead to cancer, are u prepared to be a widower and have motherless kids soon?
3. How are you sure during her pregnancy phase she'd keep away from the booze n weed? She may not be able to keep the baby in her stomach if she does get preggers.
4. If you love her so much, take her for deliverance which I guess she's gonna really contend with you on.
Man, you know what to do!
I tink you jst keep trying to change her first and let's see hw it goes. But incase there is no change in such person after much effort from you, I tink she is nt jst ment for you. Imagine ur kids having a mum that smokes. Not even daddy. Give it another thought.
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