There are actually quite a few women married to men on the down low in this our Lagos. Read confession from one below...
Sitting in the Best Man’s seat yesterday watching my boyfriend getting married in one of the biggest church in the Country. Yes, you read that right, I’m a guy and my boyfriend got married yesterday. We have been dating for the past 7 years right after we met at the NYSC camp in the northern Part of Nigeria. Now, laying back on my bed, thinking about how happy the wife was not knowing she was just embarking on the journey of sadness to someone who have no love for her. Then I concluded that she deserves it, she was arranged for him, she was forcing him to get married even when the guy told her he is not ready. Then, I partly blame the government for giving us such attention we never wanted. We were doing fine, even living together and never wanted to get married, but since the homophobic law came into existence, everyone questions 2 best friends living together, everyone questions older man who hasn’t married yet, the fear of being ‘suspected’ now makes most gay men in the country marry a woman so as to cover up their act.
Also to the parent, who keep forcing their child into marrying someone who they know nothing about, or parents who threathens to disown their child if they don’t get married. His parent threaten to cut him out if he didnt get married and he is just 32 so they arranged the girl for him.
Things like this will always happen, if other people’s business is our concern, if parent won’t allow their child to be whatever they want, if girls won’t stop forcing themselves on guys or forcing marriage on them. You wonder why most homes are unhappy, because the woman was the one forcing everything. We already love how we secretly do our things, the government act is just foolish and will cause more unhappy homes. And to people who are homophobic online, well, in every family, there is always at least somebody different.
Sitting in the Best Man’s seat yesterday watching my boyfriend getting married in one of the biggest church in the Country. Yes, you read that right, I’m a guy and my boyfriend got married yesterday. We have been dating for the past 7 years right after we met at the NYSC camp in the northern Part of Nigeria. Now, laying back on my bed, thinking about how happy the wife was not knowing she was just embarking on the journey of sadness to someone who have no love for her. Then I concluded that she deserves it, she was arranged for him, she was forcing him to get married even when the guy told her he is not ready. Then, I partly blame the government for giving us such attention we never wanted. We were doing fine, even living together and never wanted to get married, but since the homophobic law came into existence, everyone questions 2 best friends living together, everyone questions older man who hasn’t married yet, the fear of being ‘suspected’ now makes most gay men in the country marry a woman so as to cover up their act.
Also to the parent, who keep forcing their child into marrying someone who they know nothing about, or parents who threathens to disown their child if they don’t get married. His parent threaten to cut him out if he didnt get married and he is just 32 so they arranged the girl for him.
Things like this will always happen, if other people’s business is our concern, if parent won’t allow their child to be whatever they want, if girls won’t stop forcing themselves on guys or forcing marriage on them. You wonder why most homes are unhappy, because the woman was the one forcing everything. We already love how we secretly do our things, the government act is just foolish and will cause more unhappy homes. And to people who are homophobic online, well, in every family, there is always at least somebody different.
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